OK this is going to be a long story just to warn you
My ex sis in law has a 10 year old son to my brother but also has 2 other children one who is 16 and one who is 2. Now they ended up getting divorced because she cheated on my bro with MY 18 year old ex boyfriend (she is 35).
She ended up falling pregnant to him (hence the 2 year old) she split up with him shortly after and he doesn’t see his son.
I feel out with her for a year but my mum was very close to her so they soon made up.
The thing is she totally takes advantage of my mum and dad. She moved in for 7 months last year (she selt her house and was waiting for her morgage to go thr with her other house) so there ended up being her the 3 kids, my mum and dad, and me and my bf in a 3 bed house. It was hell she was out every weekend, constantly out shopping and yet she said she couldn’t afford a private let until her morgage came through?
Anyway she has finally moved out but to a flat just round the corner from us. She has my mum constantly watching the 2 year old while she is at work (she watches my nephew too but mostly works while hes at school) She asks my dad to pick her up and drop her off at work even tho its only a 20 min bus ride. She only ever phones when she wants something. It really bugs me how she asks my mum to watch her 2 year old boy which was the result of my brother and hers divorce!! She doesn’t pay my mum any money for watching him, she came round a few days ago and said oh he will be going to nursery soon and I was thinking why because its free!! she could have sent him when he was born my mum said she couldn’t afford to but she is constantly out shopping and buying plasma tv’s, computers and she even spend £250 on a links of london bracelet and ring for herself.
I have told my mum time and time again that she is just using her but we just end up arguing and my mum takes her side.
My brother is just as p*ssed off as I am but my mum doesn’t seem to care.
My mum and dad are planning on moving to a smaller house, not far about a 20 min bus ride and she said to my nephew your gran doesn’t love us anymore she is leaving us! then my nephew phoned asking do you still love me gran? what a sick b*tch. I know its just because she won’t have a babysitter at hand
I want this vile woman out of our lives shes caused so much upset and so many arguements I hate her so much!!
Ex Sis In Law From Hell Help!!?
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Sep
Bev P
September 27, 2009 at 4:31 pm
Wow, this woman is a total lunetic. I can’t believe her. You have absolute right to hate her. I am not sure though what you should do because I’m sure that your parents are very nice people and help her so they can see their grandchild. All you can do is keep on talking to your parents whenever you get a chance and hope that one day they’ll wake up and stop tolerating her. And for her, someway or another, she’ll go to hell.
Donna M
September 27, 2009 at 4:44 pm
seems a like a big problem, but u know i have an idea why your mother might be taking her side, imagine if she left ur brother then your mother would think that she raised a son that is a failure and shes just in denial. but i do think that shes a *****. but time to time, stop and think before you act. think of it as if were her and how what u would say would affect her.
i also agree with uss be patient because you WILL be considered the evil one if you creat a scene
amirk
September 27, 2009 at 4:48 pm
Your Ex-sister in law will be in your life for at least another 8 years, until your nephew turns 18. You have a lot of good reasons for disliking this woman. By being so vocal and hateful you are probably making things a lot harder on your mom. Your mom is not a stupid woman she is a saint. She knows if she doesn’t watch the kids they may be left alone, or even abused. These children didn’t ask to be put in this mess, and your mom can see that. Give your mom some credit, she is probably the only stable, loving influence in these children’s lives. Let your mom choose for herself, likewise; you’re an adult and can make your own decisions too. If living with your boy friend, in your moms home is so horrid, move out!
Carandy1
September 27, 2009 at 5:11 pm
Problem is – everyone makes their own decision.
If they do not WANT to see they are taken advantage of, then there is not much you can do about it.
As your brother and her share a child – she will never be completely gone until the child is 18.
You have done your best, pointed out that she is taking advantage of your parents – and they do not mind being taken advantage of.
So, keep your distance, and just be polite in a cold way when you meet her – but don`t go causing a scene – because as things are now – you will be branded the evil one.
Patience in this case is a virtue.
ME
September 27, 2009 at 5:18 pm
Oh dear this sounds like a right can of worms. I can fully understand how you feel, being in a similar situation myself previously. Now I don’t know how old you are but seeing as your ex boyfriend had an affair this this person I take it you are a grown up. Your parents are the grandparents and obviously don’t want to make the baby feel left out so your mum is being a grandma to this baby too. Despite being used she is doing it for the children, not for the ex, even though it doesn’t feel like she is. I agree, using the child for emotional blackmail is despicable this just shows everyone what type of person she is. The only advice I can give to you is “BACK OFF” you will never ever change anything as your parents can’t see they are doing wrong, they are being grandparents, it is their JOB. The more you go on, the more they switch off until they stop listening altogether, you will make yourself ill trying to protect your mum and dad from this person. They are big enough to look after themselves. The kids will grow up, she will meet someone else, who won’t want her ex’s parents on the scene at all so it won’t last forever, like you say SHE IS USING THEM ! so she will have no worries about stopping using them either, that’s when they will need you to pick up the pieces, as losing a grandchild is almost as bad as losing your own child, trust me. Hang in there honey. Just ease off the lectures to mum and dad it won’t last forever, and you will eventually be proved right, good luck.
U_S_S_En
September 27, 2009 at 5:29 pm
Your parents are grown ups and perfectly capable of making their own decisions and mistakes in life. When they grow tired of being used they will stop allowing it. You are not going to change your ex-sister-in-law either. Just be nice to the child and let it go. Unless you can prove she is negligent or abusive towards the child there is nothing you can do. Please be the best Aunt you can be.
Best wishes.