Comments on: Ex Sis In Law From Hell Help!!?

By: U_S_S_En

U_S_S_En — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 17:29:27 +0000

Your parents are grown ups and perfectly capable of making their own decisions and mistakes in life. When they grow tired of being used they will stop allowing it. You are not going to change your ex-sister-in-law either. Just be nice to the child and let it go. Unless you can prove she is negligent or abusive towards the child there is nothing you can do. Please be the best Aunt you can be.
Best wishes.

By: ME

ME — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 17:18:12 +0000

Oh dear this sounds like a right can of worms. I can fully understand how you feel, being in a similar situation myself previously. Now I don’t know how old you are but seeing as your ex boyfriend had an affair this this person I take it you are a grown up. Your parents are the grandparents and obviously don’t want to make the baby feel left out so your mum is being a grandma to this baby too. Despite being used she is doing it for the children, not for the ex, even though it doesn’t feel like she is. I agree, using the child for emotional blackmail is despicable this just shows everyone what type of person she is. The only advice I can give to you is “BACK OFF” you will never ever change anything as your parents can’t see they are doing wrong, they are being grandparents, it is their JOB. The more you go on, the more they switch off until they stop listening altogether, you will make yourself ill trying to protect your mum and dad from this person. They are big enough to look after themselves. The kids will grow up, she will meet someone else, who won’t want her ex’s parents on the scene at all so it won’t last forever, like you say SHE IS USING THEM ! so she will have no worries about stopping using them either, that’s when they will need you to pick up the pieces, as losing a grandchild is almost as bad as losing your own child, trust me. Hang in there honey. Just ease off the lectures to mum and dad it won’t last forever, and you will eventually be proved right, good luck.

By: Carandy1

Carandy1 — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 17:11:26 +0000

Problem is – everyone makes their own decision.
If they do not WANT to see they are taken advantage of, then there is not much you can do about it.
As your brother and her share a child – she will never be completely gone until the child is 18.
You have done your best, pointed out that she is taking advantage of your parents – and they do not mind being taken advantage of.
So, keep your distance, and just be polite in a cold way when you meet her – but don`t go causing a scene – because as things are now – you will be branded the evil one.
Patience in this case is a virtue.

By: amirk

amirk — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:48:12 +0000

Your Ex-sister in law will be in your life for at least another 8 years, until your nephew turns 18. You have a lot of good reasons for disliking this woman. By being so vocal and hateful you are probably making things a lot harder on your mom. Your mom is not a stupid woman she is a saint. She knows if she doesn’t watch the kids they may be left alone, or even abused. These children didn’t ask to be put in this mess, and your mom can see that. Give your mom some credit, she is probably the only stable, loving influence in these children’s lives. Let your mom choose for herself, likewise; you’re an adult and can make your own decisions too. If living with your boy friend, in your moms home is so horrid, move out!

By: Donna M

Donna M — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:44:05 +0000

seems a like a big problem, but u know i have an idea why your mother might be taking her side, imagine if she left ur brother then your mother would think that she raised a son that is a failure and shes just in denial. but i do think that shes a *****. but time to time, stop and think before you act. think of it as if were her and how what u would say would affect her.
i also agree with uss be patient because you WILL be considered the evil one if you creat a scene

By: Bev P

Bev P — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:31:37 +0000

Wow, this woman is a total lunetic. I can’t believe her. You have absolute right to hate her. I am not sure though what you should do because I’m sure that your parents are very nice people and help her so they can see their grandchild. All you can do is keep on talking to your parents whenever you get a chance and hope that one day they’ll wake up and stop tolerating her. And for her, someway or another, she’ll go to hell.